In our experience here at the Vibrator Report, the answer to this common concern is an absolute and resounding NO! After 20+ years of regular use of a Hitachi Magic Wand we can report no desensitizing effect, in fact finger orgasms are still better than vibrator orgasms. Please post your experiences in the comments below!
Here is how the sex columist for Chicago Time Out answered the question (frankly, we wouldn’t worry about “variety” too much, just take what you need!):
Q I acquired my first vibrator a while back and have been very happy with it. However, recently while attempting to masturbate with just my fingers, I found that it was much harder for me to come. I’m worried now that regular use of the vibrator has had a desensitizing effect and that continued use might actually make it difficult for me to orgasm during sex with my girlfriend. It isn’t even a particularly strong vibrator. Should I be concerned?
A Despite the fact that vibrators are common (53 percent of American women ages 18–59 report having used a vibrator alone or with a partner), little research has been done on their use. My theory is that when many women start using a vibrator, they find it makes orgasms quicker and easier to come by, and they stick with it. Then when they go back to something else (say, finger masturbation or cunnilingus), they may feel that it’s harder to come from the things that they haven’t tried in ages. It may be that you’re now conditioned to expect a quick, easy orgasm. But finger orgasms tend to take longer. You may need to be patient and to enhance your arousal through sexual fantasy and relaxation. Also, I don’t think these orgasmic changes are limited to vibrator use. I think women who learn to orgasm from vaginal penetration, for example, sometimes are so into their newfound orgasm source that they focus mainly on that. Then when they go back to oral or fingers, they find it difficult at first. My best suggestion, if you want to maintain your ability to orgasm from different things, is to focus on variety. Use your fingers sometimes (maybe when you have more time) and your vibrator other times. But I wouldn’t be terribly concerned if I were you—instead, I’d just encourage you to broaden the ways you experience pleasure.
